Another Dream of the Dead

Note: Two dreams in one day?! I actually had this dream last week when out of town for the holidays.

I have a new job at a lab on a campus. I am low person on the totem pole - washing glassware, keeping the lab generally tidy, being a gopher. It doesn't matter because I am delighted to be in a lab environment again. I saw or met a new student who I instantly wanted to be friends with. He was a bit on the stereotype side of being the sharp-tongued gay guy. He reminded me of a friend I had long ago in my waking life, someone I have always missed. It turned out the new guy was studying for his PhD under my friend L, who had gotten her PhD from and still worked with, my first husband, T. I ended up going to his lab to look for my new friend and seeing T. T was following me somewhere, and when we arrived he teased me about my butt. It was an effort to be good-natured. It was obvious he was still angry and hurt about the bust-up of our marriage, but it was also obvious that he was moving on with his life and didn't want to just hate me.

Note: (hey, 2 dreams in 1 day, now 2 notes in 1 dream!) This didn't have the deep, spiritual feel that my other dreams of the dead have had. I spent lots of time spinning this around. Journaling made me realize it wasn't so much about T as it was about me - how I'm still dealing with my guilt over his suicide. I am hoping that since T seemed to be able to forgive me in the dream, that I will be able to forgive myself in my waking life.